Young S'poreans feel there's no need to marry, but about 7 in 10 want to
Young people are less likely to think it is necessary to marry and have kids, but most still aspire to do so, a new survey has found.
They are held back by practical concerns such as wanting to first advance their careers and build a comfortable life, as well as the cost and stress of raising kids.
These were among the findings of the Institute of Policy Studies (IPS) pre-conference poll shared at the Singapore Perspectives conference on Jan 29. The survey was done to get a sense of Singaporeans’ attitudes and views towards issues like family, well-being, work and other areas.
It found that the young are reporting higher levels of loneliness, and cost of living is top of the list of social issues that Singaporeans are most concerned about.
A representative sample of 2,356 Singapore residents were polled between November and December 2023 in three groups: age 21 to 34, 35 to 49, and 50 to 64.
While 70 per cent of the youngest group thought it was not necessary to get married, 58 per cent of the middle group and 50 per cent of the oldest group concurred.
And 72 per cent of the youngest group feel it is not necessary to have children in a marriage, compared to 63 per cent in the middle group and 49 per cent in the oldest group.
Despite this, 68 per cent of the youngest respondents foresee themselves getting married, and 67 per cent hope to have kids.
Across all age groups, the top two reasons for not dating or getting married are that they have not met the right person yet and that they prefer to remain single.
Younger respondents are more likely to cite having other priorities, such as their job and self-discovery, and a lack of time and energy, as their reasons for not dating, and being deterred from getting married by the cost of doing so. Older respondents are more likely to cite a preference to remain single as their reason for not dating or getting married.
High cost and stress emerged as the top reasons for not wanting to have children across all age groups.
“They almost have checkboxes these days before they can consider marriage and parenthood. They want to check off their job, they want the ability to have their own home and a comfortable life, being able to travel twice or three times a year… And then the rest,” said Dr Chew Han Ei, senior research fellow at IPS.
Dr Kalpana Vignehsa, senior research fellow at IPS who conducted the poll, said: “So they are raising themselves to not kind of identify so strongly with marriage and parenthood that it affects their fulfilment. Nonetheless, their own aspirations don’t necessarily need to match up.
“It doesn’t necessarily have to be a really bad thing because if you can’t necessarily control the eventual outcome, you are a little bit protected if you don’t, if it’s not going to affect your sense of identity and fulfillment.”
The young worry about the cost of housing, the middle group about the cost of their kids’ education, and the oldest group about the cost of necessities like food and healthcare costs, said Dr Chew.
Younger respondents are more likely to report higher levels of social isolation. More than half of them find it easier to talk to people online and feel anxious if they have to interact with others in person. Only three in 10 of those aged 50 to 64 feel the same way.
Younger respondents are more likely to hope to see greater mental health support in schools and workplaces.
Mental health support ranks third on the list of social issues that younger people care about, while this concern comes in the eighth place for the oldest group, which aligns with how this group has a stronger stigma against mental health, said Dr Chew.
“They are in the life stage when they should be making transitions to the workplace, transitions to higher education, and missed out on a lot of these opportunities during the pandemic. They don’t go for orientations, they don’t go for their immersion programmes overseas. And there’s no water cooler conversations at the workplace,” he said.
On concerns around work, younger respondents surveyed are more worried about their work prospects, such as getting their desired salary, position, benefits and working conditions.
Given the opportunity, 55 per cent of young respondents would move overseas to work, compared to 45 per cent of the middle group and 33 per cent of the oldest group.
The young feel more prepared for tech disruptions in the workplace, with 53 per cent feeling prepared for the eventual adoption of tech such as generative artificial intelligence, Web3, and blockchain in the workplace, compared to 48 per cent in the middle group and 46 per cent in the oldest group.
Younger respondents polled tend to be more civically engaged, compared to their older counterparts. The younger group participate in such activities both online and offline, and feel more empowered to create change.
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